Giving Birth Does Not Necessarily Make You A Mother!
Mother’s Day has just past and we ALL sung the praises of Motherhood. We sung those praises to such a degree that no one even wants to acknowledge the fact that some of these mothers really have no business toting that title. Just because a woman gives birth does not necessarily make her a mother! You would think some people would look into this a little deeper!
Motherhood is a beautiful thing but it angers me when taken lightly. When a woman has five opportunities to avoid the mishap of having a bastard child but chooses not too, what do you call a woman fitting that description, not to mention, the people, environment or family around them? The word smart is not what comes to mind!
As a society, we seem to forget that Motherhood should be a privilege and as with all privileges, there comes responsibility. Responsibility entails being held accountable for your actions and the actions of over 70% of all African-American births, in 2007, were to unwed mothers and single black women! I am sorry to say but that does not sound like responsible to me! But you know, it doesn’t start there, the problem started long before that child was ever conceived!
There are FIVE AVOIDABLE MISTAKES (p.67) women make all which lead to a child being born, according to Lex Drás, author of "It’s Mama’s Fault!: Poor Decisions…"
Solutions? They do exist but they are hard and they will take time, which is why it is just "easier" for single women to continue having bastardized kids! Does anyone believe this epidemic is a problem? Does anyone want to change the direction of this downward spiral? Everyone is always b*tching and moaning about the SYMPTOMS (crime, welfare, housing, etc.) but nobody is doing anything about the CAUSE (the circumstances in which the child was born). www.MamasFault.com
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I agree WE have a problem.
The MOTHER obviously didn't make a decision to abstain from having sex, never a marriage proposal came into play to wed the father and raise the child together(oh what aconcept/family) abortion out of the question and she is not going to put her child up for adoption to total strangers.
You guessed it, she decides to keep the child; now what do WE do point and whisper as she passes by or do WE take a stand and step up to mentor this child who had no part in his parent's decisions?
No we might not be related at all to this Mother and child but their lives will definitely have an impact on our lives whether through higher taxes, crime rate, etc.
WE all probably know at least one person raising a child on their on so whether we like it or not WE all celebrate Mother's Day in one form or another.
WE have to ask ourselves are WE part of the problem or part of the solution?
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I.S.C. Re-posted Comment from May 12, 2009 at 8:41am
OF COURSE THIS HAD TO BE WRITTEN BY A MALE...IT TAKES TWO OF ANYTHING TO MAKE ONE THING POSSIBLE.WHEN WE LEARN TO STOP POINTING THE FINGER AND TAKE RESPONSIBILITY THEN,AND ONLY THEN WE MAY SOME DAY COME TO A RESOLUTION. DON'T BE A PART OF THE PROBLEM.BE A PART OF THE SOLUTION!!!JUDGE YE NOT LESS YOU BE JUDGED!!!
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I.S.C. Re-posted Comment from May 12, 2009 at 9:53am
Responsibility is truly the issue, but it does NOT take two to initiate responsibility. Each individual is always faced with an option..whether it involves two..three..or however many. Relative to the BLOG, a man can try whatever he wants as far as a sexual relationship goes, but his success or failure does not rely on his asking, but his attempts being accepted. Just like getting married, agreeing to do drugs with a friend, get drunk with a friend, or join in on a 'beat down' of someone..your option to decline rules the day, and your tomorrows. Peace!
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I.S.C. Re-posted Comment from May 12, 2009 at 6:47pm
Wow, someone sounds a little salty over Mothers Day. The whole purpose for having others day is to show appreciation to the handwork, dedication, and self sacrifice that many mothers give to their children and grand children. Not to point fingers and find faults. Which is why your avatar is a little interesting to me, because you speak in terms as if the ‘fathers’ of these ‘bastard children’ as you called him had no doing in their creation. The last time I checked, a woman can not get pregnant on her own. Even if she chooses artificial insemination, there has to be a sperm donor to assist with the process.
I think that people like yourself spend more time focusing on the negative stigmas that surrounds single parent hood (mainly mothers, the one of the two parents that’s that for the child) than you do showing praise that she decided to keep the child and take care of it. Because she could have made the decision to abort the child or give it up for adoption (thus adding to our abortion rates and foster care population). Of course there are ‘less then perfect’ mothers, but do note that these ‘less than perfect’ mothers where possibly raised by ‘less than perfect’ parents. So many of them raise their children the best way they know how. It doesn’t make it right, but no child is born with a manual.
And how do you feel about your mother? What are ‘five’ mistakes you stated that women make when it comes to getting knocked up? And do you have any kids of your own?
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Thanks for your comments and your point of view. Mother’s Day, yea, I’m “a little salty,” as you put it! I’m salty because it is a shame for the good women, I uplift, to be lumped into the category of females who do not deserve the title!
My mother? Well, I lost my entire family (details very personal) at the age of 12... Due to that horrific experience, I learned what a “Real” mother is. Motherhood is not necessarily BIOLOGICAL but ENVIRONMENTAL. Again, just giving birth (biological) isn’t the Holy Grail but the nurturing (environmental), in which the child lives, is the key. The environment doesn’t just entail nurturing but also responsibility and it is just irresponsible to bring children into the world when it is very clear a woman’s circumstances cannot adequately support another life. Responsibility is not just to the child, it is to the current family, community and society we all live. Not being considerate to those factors is just selfish in that it takes away from the whole that contributes. For those who are saying that there are those who do contribute, I say they cannot over shadow the 98% who end-up a drain on society. With that said, the care I received wasn’t from my biological mother but from strong women whom I was not related. Please believe me when I tell you, I know how to evaluate true motherhood and just because a female has a baby does not make her one!
Do I have children? No, I do not and probably will not due to my extremely hectic schedule coupled with my being over 40. Sure, I may be able to father children but the women’s company I enjoy the most are just as professionally busy as I, not to mention usually my age or older. Unless I come across an extremely mature 30-something, kids probably are not in my future.
The Five Mistakes? Well, just go the MamasFault.com website to download the FREE SNEAK PEEKS of the book. After reviewing, please drop me another line if I need to provide further clarification.
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I.S.C. Re-posted Comment from May 13, 2009 at 2:54pm
To Lex Dras: "Ah, shut up and make me a sandwich".
It never fails. It never, ever, fails. The ONE day out of the 365(6) that are recognized on the calendar that officially acknowledges Motherhood for all that it's worth, and here you come. A pseudo-grinch. Bastard is such an unfair word to a child. Using that word is not a mark against the parent; but a mark against the child. Had you ever thought about that? What does that make Jesus, because Mary sure wasn't married to God! The word "mother" can be a noun or a verb. If there are females that you know of - because I sure do - that are not deserving of the action verb of mothering, that's your issue with them. But don't poison the well. Let women have their day.
Please?
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