Crime & H.S. Dropouts Emanating from Single Parent Households
The simple answer to the "Why are so many of our kids dropping out of school and going to jail?" is due to the circumstances into which the child is born. The simple answer to the "How do we get them back on track?" is to destroy the old mindset and replace it with one where being a loser doesn’t fit. The more detailed explanations follow.
When people ask "Why" questions it implies that one is trying to find the ROOT CAUSES and most do not want to know the real TRUTH, they want hear entertainment! I am certain a large segment of the population wants to pretend, and BELIEVE, that the reason our kids are so [explicative]-up is due to something else in the environment and not themselves. Acknowledging the TRUTH is painful! The Truth causes one to look within ones-self and no one wants to take responsibility for a child’s debacle! We will see how serious YOU out there are, according to how you respond, smack, dead, in-the-face-of, the facts and numbers.
The painful truth is that 71% of all African-American births, in 2007, were to unwed mothers and single Black women. That is an increase of 56% since 1980; translation, it is getting worse! Now, compare that to 50% of all Hispanic and 28% of Caucasians births out of wedlock. If there is anyone who cannot see the long-term dire effects of this trend on the African-American race and the adverse consequences, this will cause to our futures, that person is a moron! If you know a woman that falls into the category of an unwed mother, well, I’m sorry but they did that! Not the drug dealer, not the economy, not the schools, not the neighborhood, not the loser she hooked-up with… the female who gave birth did that! You prevent the birth of a child (born into such environments) (p.71), you will prevent that child’s statistical probable future. PERIOD!
In the military, there is a term called PMCS. For all of you non-military types, the term stands for Preventive Maintenance Checks and Services. What this means is that you perform measures to prevent a problem BEFORE there is a problem, not after-the-fact! We all heard the phrase, "Don’t start none, Won’t be none!" The solution starts BEFORE conception and thus the child being born.
How do you get a [explicative]-up kid back on track? Well, consider the dynamics below and then tell me what one must do. By the time a child is 13 years old, their psyche is approximately 85% "crystallized!" What this means is that you are knocking up a brick wall if you are trying "soft" measures to change this child’s mindset. Outside a traumatic event, turning that child’s world upside down and shattering that old psyche, in order to rebuild it, you may as well just chalk-that-kid-up as lost! "Soft" measures do not work! Those are the realities of the matter but again, it all goes back to people not willing to swallow the painful truth and then doing something about it! Frankly, if we as a society, and definitely the families of such a child, do not allow "hardcore" measures to be instituted then we as a society, or they (the families), deserve whatever happens.
If you want to prevent the need of taking a "hardcore" approach then you must kill the monster while it is little, as a mentor of mine would tell me! Now before everyone pulls out their guns and knives on me, this could mean several things:
First, this means that you must get inside the child’s head long before there are any signs of the downward cycle. Good luck with this approach! Who’s going to perform this daunting task, the people in the toxic environment from which the child came? Yea, right! That’s why the kid is here!
The other is to stop giving birth under such circumstances that will inevitably lead to "that" type of kid.
To those who question "…circumstances that will inevitably lead to ‘that’ type of kid." Let’s look at some numbers to back this up. Now before you go over board B*tching & Moaning about how this is not true, no matter what stats you look at, they are all appalling (p.51)! To address drop-outs and jail: Children from single-parent families, account for 80 percent of all prison inmates as stated in the Index of Leading Cultural Indicators. As a side note, African-Americans account for 45-50% of the entire prison population but only 13% of the in the United States. Does anyone see a problem with these numbers? In deep contrast, the Asian population accounts for approximately 45% of the Ivy League population but only 3% of the United States population. I guarantee you that vast majorities of Asian kids are not born to unwed mothers. Taking a wild guess, which population will fair better, in the United States and global economy, given these facts?
The Village Voice found that children brought up in single-mother homes are nine times more likely to drop out of high school and 20 times more likely to end up in prison then a two parent household. Two percent of the kids born to African-American single mother households make it to adulthood and become productive members of society (have never gone to prison and are TAX paying citizens).
There is a reason for why these things occur and until we start taking off the blinders to what those reasons are, we will continue to produce the results we see today!
With all of this in mind, what are the steps we need to take to create National Programs that will turn this tide and begin to make a generational shift in thinking? National Programs that:
Install Foundational Fundamental Principles™ at the preschool level.
Change how a child views single parenthood.
Introduce very young children to success principles.
Change how children envision their future.
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7/27/2009 1:35 AM
Its Mamas Fault, Poor Decisions, Unwed Mothers, Illegitimate Births, Abandoned Children, Awareness wrote:
YES or NO. Do you believe Illegitimate Births are a problem in this country? Who (1 person!) is responsible?
I.S.C. Re-posted Comment from May 17, 2009
The number one reason why it's a lot of dropout is because people stop caring about the kids. The teachers don't give a dam about our children. The teachers are saying that they have no support from their bosses. The teachers are not getting paid enough for what they have to put up with. A lot of teachers stop caring a long time ago. A lot of teachers can't get the parents for teachers teachers conference.
I've seen it all. I'm a parent of two graduates. I have another child in middle school I do not want my youngest son to go to the high school in my area.
Please. Teachers talk to me and the child talk to me. I write and speak about the youth issues all the time.
Grown Folk stop talking about the problem and do something about the dropouts and the issues that effect our communities.
All the communites.
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Please believe me when I tell you that I feel your irritation as it pertains to those that only talk about the problems and not doing anything about the issues.
Unfortunately, human beings do not change their patterns of doing anything unless there is enough pain present as an incentive. This hold especially true for our people! My purpose for publishing my blogs and book is to throw a little more salt into that wound so that people will take notice of the problems and then be willing to do what ever it takes to resolve them. Sound cruel? It may seem like that at first but that is what has to be done to get our people's attention. Yes, I talk about the problem but I also have solutions. But guess what? No one cares about "life rafts" when they don't think they are drowning; the ship is taking on water but no one is paying attention. It is my mission to see to it that they do!
Although not listed on the "I See Color" site, please click on the My Home Page and look for the blog headline, on the left hand side of the page, linking to the complete blog. You may also click on the website link below and go to "Mama's Conversation" to access the blog link. Whichever method you choose, you will find some important questions at the end of that blog that will help assist my organizations in putting National Solutions in place to our situations.
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I.S.C. Re-posted Comment from May 17, 2009 at 1:26pm
Black Male Parenting and Black Male education are the Answers to our problems. Our men are missing and it is up to us to take control of our culture and lead it....Like leaders do!
Education is and always will be the great equalizer men!
• Median earnings in 2006 of a white American aged 25 to 34 who held a master’s degree: $50,000
• Median earnings in 2006 of an blacks aged 25 to 34 who held a master’s degree: $50,000
(U.S. Department of Education)
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I agree that our prison system has its issues. However, I believe they are only a symptom of the true problem occurring in OUR community. We stop "that" problem and we will tremendously reduce our footprint in the penal system thus reducing the prison population at large. If we continue to blame everything else without taking a hard look at ourselves, nothing will change. www.MamasFault.com
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I.S.C. Re-posted Comment from May 17, 2009 at 1:30pm
IF WE DO NOTHING ELSE BUT MOVE THE RATE AT WHICH BLACK CHILDREN ARE BEING BORN TO UNWED MOTHERS FROM 71% TO 31%.......................................OUR ENTIRE CULTURE WILL BE DIFFERENT!
THAT IS A FACT!
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I.S.C. Re-posted Comment from May 26, 2009 at 1:15pm
My Black sisters, did the idea ever occur to you to have kids after he marries you?? I am appalled at how women today give "soveigneer babies" to the man of the month, it is so shocking to me, disgusting and has a huge negative impact on the children. It is hard to riase a child properly, it takes consistency, stability, money and two involved parents!! Dropping your panties and dropping a baby should not be synonomous!! Wake up Black people, there is merit to having protected sex.....there is fortune in having a good relationship then ,marriage then a baby....think people, think!!
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I.S.C. Re-posted Comment from May 26, 2009 at 6:24pm
Why do people like Julie only blame the women for having children out of wed-lock, but say nothing to our brothers about birth control and simply keeping it in their pants? It takes two to tango people! These women are not getting pregnant by themselves. Unless she’s choosing the option be become artificially inseminated, there is normally a man there assisting with the creation of a child. “Soveigneer babies”? What is that to call an innocent child? And many women do have kids with a man they’re either married or engaged too, but things don’t work out and they end up separating or getting a divorce. Thus, leaving the child to growing up in single parent home.
And I want to thank Morpheus for your comment. I’m glad to see one brother here who can think outside the box and not just blame black women for the problems that plague our community.
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Obviously, single parenting of a child's growth leads to possibilities of children attempting crimes.
As the percentage of African American unwed mothers have raised more, the percentage of orphan child rate too would be
increased. So, the American Government should take necessary steps to over come this problem by giving precautions on the importance of marriage and childbirth. The Government should also bring strict laws to control unwed childbirths and providing guidance to the children of single parenting.
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