Its Mamas Fault, Unplanned Pregnancy, Unwed Mothers, Prevention, Fatherless, Illegitimate Births: Recent Comments

Comment on Crime & H.S. Dropouts Emanating from Single Parent Households

2010-11-29T05:20:34Z

Obviously, single parenting of a child's growth leads to possibilities of children attempting crimes.
As the percentage of African American unwed mothers have raised more, the percentage of orphan child rate too would be
increased. So, the American Government should take necessary steps to over come this problem by giving precautions on the importance of marriage and childbirth. The Government should also bring strict laws to control unwed childbirths and providing guidance to the children of single parenting.

Comment on Responsibility v. Blame: What is the Difference?

2010-07-31T07:35:47Z

I feel is true..but not limited to those things that come from a father or a mother. How we learn to integrate those experiences in life are the critical areas. A fatherless family does not 'doom' any particular member to a negative life-style in, and of itself. However, combined with many factors outside the home.

Comment on Are Fatherless Black Women Doomed to Repeat the Cycle?

2010-07-28T06:50:08Z

I see what kind of person he is, and why would I want to deal with someone like him? My mom is a very strong person. She has taught me not to depend on anyone. I have a 6 year old, I left his dad when he was 2. We are civil, we have a lucrative agreement as far as child support between ourselves, our son's on his insurance. I only give him the benefit of the doubt because he tries. He works all the time because he has other kids to support.

Comment on Unwed Mothers, Do Not Read This!

2010-06-19T16:17:27Z

I must say it takes a lot to not involve my emotions in a topic, that I am very passionate about. I was raised in a two-parent household (biological parents) and they are still married to this day! (30 years) and I made all kinds of "mistakes" that would place me in the "probability" and statistic range. So, that's why I can't agree nor support charted demographic research, because it is bias. It targets specific types of people (cases) and then compares and contrasts the similar "mistakes" of that particular study group. It is inaccurate, it is controlled and it is not factious.

Also, who are you to presume that "some" of these single stupid bitch mothers haven't accepted with humility that they put themselves and a child in a compromising situation by reproducing with a cowardly male? That is purely presumption. Single mothers find your blog, reasoning offensive because it is pervasive in stereotyping an unwed mother, as some uneducated, selfish dunce; who after becoming pregnant never bounced back and continued onto a successful life path for her and her off-spring. But that she instead is standing around cursing out her child about his "no good daddy" while they wait for their WIC vouchers at the health department.

You are correct, I haven't read your books or other entries, but stumbling across this blog---cease my motivation to do so. Your analogy was logical. I will give you that. But you failed to incorporate any human fallacies which Person A or Person B, could be personified beyond simple details.

If you want to advocate strong black families, with two parent households---then emphasize absentness. Emphasize real dating, ie; getting to know yourself truly before trying to get to know someone else. Instead of advocating that women should just innately have clear discernment on the "fatherly male" and if she happens to get knocked up by a loser---then to go get rid of it.

I agree that there are far too many single mothers out here. And far too many deadbeat dads. But my focus isn't on the prevention once it's already a bridge crossed---but moreso on the accountability and responsibility of both parents. Beyond a single mothers bruised ego---where does she go from there? Beyond a deadbeat dads excuses, where does he mature and become selfless enough to support his off-spring? It's too late too preach about prevention at that point.

But yes, childless men and women need to master themselves FIRST, before mating. How is that accomplished? It's dependent on that individuals own intuitiveness of self. It has nothing to do with how they were or weren't raised---it is a call of there own inherent responsibility as a human.

BTW---I am a 27-year-old, BLACK woman. I am currently 38 weeks pregnant, by a BLACK man whom I thought I knew after 3 years but he abandoned me at 4 weeks pregnant. I have an accredited Bachelor's in Print Journalism, a career, a supportive family and I am having a son. I am blessed, optimistic and ego-less.

Comment on Unwed Mothers, Do Not Read This!

2010-06-16T07:22:07Z

Riley,

I TREMENDOUSLY APPLAUD YOUR ENTHUSIASM! I have so much more respect for someone who voices their opinion in an articulate manner than one who goes into an emotional tirade (that’s not you… is it?) or worse, says nothing. However! I gotta ask, did you read the Book? Based on this Blog’s response, we both already know the answer to that question! NO!

You are absolutely right that “There are NO victims but the child….” Well, Dahhh! Since we all already know this then why does “she” allow it to happen? “…distorted, stereotypical…?” Is there any Truth in the story I wrote as it applies to you?
I must say that you are also absolutely right in that “Being raised in a two-parent house-hold does not guarantee a successful child, no more than being raised by a single parent guarantees a at-risk youth” but there are such things as probabilities.
You, however, have definitely misinterpreted my view as you put it “…that perpetuate the cycle that it's okay for black men to abandon their roles as fathers.” I have extreme contempt for men who have children in one household where they are not raising the child but live in another with possibly other offspring.
All of these things are issues I discuss in the Book.

I have written a number of different pieces that I AM CERTAIN you have not read because if you did, your accusation that, “[I] need to mature…” would surely be different. What I have written basically comes down to what you mentioned in the opening lines of your response. “…accountability, responsibility, humility [and] honor” but what I would add… on the part of a woman; Everything starts and ends with her. As the old adage goes, “You wouldn’t be here if it wasn’t for your Mama!” So begs to reason that it was HER DECISION for you being here as well as The Crap “she” puts out into society to repeat the cycle.

My entire purpose for the Book, “It’s Mama’s Fault! Poor Decisions Psychologically Damaging the Male Child” is to bring into the light the UGLY TRUTH and, of course, Single Moms with bastard children aren’t going to like it! It is through that AWARENESS that we can begin to move towards PREVENTION. This cannot happen until the one entity responsible for the DECISION owns-up and says, “Yes, I dropped the ball BUT I refuse to allow the next generation do the same!” As long as a mother’s Ego and her trying to “save face” continue, the horrible statistic of 80% of Black households headed by one parent, over 98% of which are female, will become more, to use your word, Pathetic.

Look, I love the dialog but how many of your contemporary’s feel the same way you do? Would they support your vantage-point? Why? Would you like to get $1,000 for your opinion? If so, there is a nation wide contest kicking-off July 1, 2010 called “’SHOP’ Talk about Mama’s Fault.” There will be 5 $1,000 prizes (July - November) given to the Best Opinions, voted on by the public, all on Face Book. It won’t be me judging but people nationwide judging your opinion. You MUST obtain the SHOP Owner’s contest code in order to register and to be able to submit your opinion. Just visit your favorite Beauty Salon, Barber Shop, Coffee House, Book Club, etc. to get it. If your favorite SHOP is not registered for the contest, they can simply call 888-98-LIGHT to obtain a Promo Kit and Contest Code. There is NO PURCHASE NECESSARY but you will need to reference the Book when expressing your views. This requirement assures that everyone is talking about the same thing and not everyone off on their own tangent.
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Comment on Unwed Mothers, Do Not Read This!

2010-06-15T19:18:14Z

And you even have the gall to bring Jesus into the insanity of this judgmental gibberish. I pray that MY God, who is a forgiving God has mercy on your soul for ALL your fallacies and transgressions. I guess single mothers, should resign to being heathens to as they are not worthy of a relationship with Christ. How dare you, with such insensitivity and ignorance write such trash and actually stand convicted that what you say is some theory of right. You sound like a feminized homosexual male who because of your own hang-outs and scanted experiences with male/female relationships---think you hold some candle to the evolution of the black family. When in fact, you represent the ignorant perspectives that make up the real "breakdown" in our communities. Shame on you. Anyone who agrees or supports you---also must have a very limited view on what "really" takes places in heterosexual relationships.

Comment on Unwed Mothers, Do Not Read This!

2010-06-14T17:47:40Z

Also---it's irresponsible blogs and opinions like yours, that perpetuate the cycle that it's okay for black men to abandon their roles as fathers. If you want to serve as any kind of "help", try mentoring some of these "loser" guys or writing books/blogs on manhood. But I presume---that would be too much like right. It's much easier to bitch and moan and blame women---yeah---way to go for making an argument as a Black Man. Pathetic.

Comment on Unwed Mothers, Do Not Read This!

2010-06-14T17:43:20Z

Interesting. For all your analogies,rants---you failed to mention at any point: accountability, responsibility, humility or honor. I guess all these illegitimate bastard children and their stupid bitch mothers (who from your description are draining the welfare system because it's impossible for them to be college educated, once married or well-off women raise children on their own without public assistance) should just kill themselves and resolve to a life of crime, murder and shame. You have an extremely distorted, stereotypical, misogynist and ignorant view on the roles of black women and black men as a whole. There are NO victims but the child, if you choose to adopt that mentality. Being raised in a two-parent house-hold does not guarantee a successful child, no more than being raised by a single parent guarantees a at-risk youth. And what about single fathers? How does that play into your "It's Mama's fault" rhetoric? You need to mature and be very careful about all the stones in your glass house you seem so feel "privileged" to throw.

Comment on In a Nutshell

2010-05-17T19:39:02Z

While this conversation is something that we've been having for a long time, it's unfortunate that some women think that having a man, ANY man, defines who they are. I think if we, as a society, can help counter this line of thought, it will go a LONG way in decreasing this number of illegitimate children. Standing up and recognizing their self-worth is a must!

Hanna

Comment on Unwed Mothers, Do Not Read This!

2010-03-31T06:58:23Z

This article has solved a great problem for me, it explains why there is a wesite called prisontalkonline.com or PTO for short. Every woman on there has either "hooked up" with a prison thug or wants to have one's baby as soon as she can. Yes, he's serving 891 years for rape and murder but he's so cute!